I usually don’t follow much on Twitter but recently there has been a major trend with the hashtag #WhenIWas and it really resonated with me. And it made me think back on all my experiences growing up as a female. For the most part girls are brought up being told (or conditioned) that our goal in life is to find a husband and get married. And this involves heavily on us being attractive to the opposite sex and acting a certain way to attract a male even to the point of “fishing” for compliments and dumbing ourselves down. As young girls we are told to say “thank you” and smile for strange men who give us compliments on the way we look. Regardless if it makes us feel uncomfortable or not. Why is this okay? And why is this still going on today? Case in point, I’m almost 32 years old and my mother still tells me to look “decent” in public and that I need to find a man to take care of me, one who preferably likes big girls as she likes to point out. Clearly, I’m fucking over it. So here’s my list, because really what girl only has just one instance of harassment? These are only just a few of the big ones that really kind of shaped me as a woman.
#WhenIWas 8 years old I was sexually molested by my Aunt’s second husband. I didn’t tell anybody until I was 18.
#WhenIWas 12 years old a male teacher used his laser pointer to point to mine and other girls breasts and butts. He never got in trouble even when I did go to the Vice Principle.
#WhenIWas 17 years old a neighbor of my parents who was also a policeman at the time grabbed my hand and tried to put it down his pants. I did tell my parents but they were afraid of retaliation so until he moved whenever I walked outside to my car my dad would follow me.
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